"I feel so fat."

This was a phrase I found myself uttering during my own journey through eating disorder recovery.

Overwhelmed by negative feelings towards my body, these words became a reflection of something deeper than physical appearance—a mirror to my internal struggles.

Perhaps you've encountered a similar moment. A photograph capturing an angle you wish remained unseen or a day where your own skin feels like an uncomfortable outfit—these experiences can trigger a cascade of self-criticism.

It's within these moments of vulnerability that we confront 2 critical misconceptions embedded in our language and society.

1. Understanding Fat as an Objective Reality

First, we must confront the objective nature of fat. Fat, in its essence, is neither an adversary nor a badge of honor—it simply is.

Our bodies harbor fat cells; a biological reality, not a moral failing. Yet, society, under the influence of a pervasive diet culture, has hastily assigned moral weight to these natural bodily components. It's essential to recognize this bias to demystify the negativity surrounding body size.

The Health at Every Size (HAES) movement sheds light on this stigmatization by advocating for size acceptance and challenging the societal obsession with thinness. Statistics from the HAES community reveal an interesting trend: despite increasing rates of body dissatisfaction, there is no conclusive evidence linking body size directly with health outcomes.

In fact, discrimination and psychological stress associated with body shaming can have more detrimental effects on health than the number on a scale.

2. Dissecting the Reality of "Feeling Fat"

Secondly, the phrase "I feel fat" is a misnomer. Fat is not a feeling but a substance. When we use "fat" to describe our emotions, we do a disservice to our emotional complexity.

In my programs, I emphasize the concept of emotional granularity—the ability to accurately identify and articulate our feelings.

By cultivating this skill, we can move beyond vague descriptors like "tired," "stressed," or "fat," and begin to understand the precise emotions fueling our discomfort.

What does "I feel so fat" really mean?

Are we feeling bloated, unconfident, frustrated, constrained by our clothing, overlooked, unloved, disrespected, or lonely?

By asking ourselves these questions, we engage in a deeper emotional dialogue, uncovering the real issues lying beneath the surface.

Next time you have the urge to say “I feel so fat”, ask yourself what it is you are truly feeling.

Transforming Perception Through Curious Compassion

Transforming our relationship with our bodies and food begins with understanding the true sentiments hidden behind the statement "I feel so fat."

It's about getting curious and compassionate towards ourselves, peeling back the layers of conditioned self-judgment to reveal our genuine emotional state.

If you're navigating through challenges with body confidence or your relationship with food, remember that understanding and change start with compassion. You will never shame yourself to a different version of yourself.

Dive into the depths of your emotions, get clear on what you're truly feeling, and embrace the journey towards a healthier, more self-compassionate you.

For those seeking guidance, support is available. I encourage you to reach out for a free consultation call. Together, we can explore the roots of your feelings and embark on a path to healing your relationship with food and body.

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